Child-like Happiness February 18, 2008

When I see children laughing, screaming and running with boundless energy, I am compelled to remember how fun it is to be a kid. I can still vividly relive the joyous moments when I created paper dolls, playhouse and pretended to be someone – a princess, a mom, a baby, a teacher, a wicked witch or any character I could imagine. Games like block jack (hopscotch), German soccer, “shatom”, Chinese garter, patentero, “bahaw-bahaw” and “buwan-buwan” are some of the popular games we used to play in PI. Petty/nonsense arguments, teasing and name-calling with playmates also made the memory funnier…By and large, my childhood was happy.

Below is a simple poem I made; dedicated to all the children in the world. May every kid enjoy his/her childhood for it passes only once.

About Men/Relationship February 18, 2008

I got this from a friend and I thought I should post it for it is a MUST READ for all women. These are all quoted from Oprah:

 If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. [yeah!]

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? [exactly!]

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. [so cut your losses and move on girl!]

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. [yup!]

You cannot change a man’s behaviour. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. [but of course!]

Never let a man define who you are.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary… not supplementary.

Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

You need time to heal between relationships… There is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. [amen!]

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. [True!]

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. [so don't grovel, girl. keep your dignity!]

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. [right on!]

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. [so true!]

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better. [why do some guys pressure you into making a permanent commitment?]

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you trulyhappy.


Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. [the nerve...]

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. [so true!]

All men are NOT dogs. [True. Thank God for the few decent guys on earth!]

You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is two way street.

Never co-sign for a man. [yeah, better be safe than sorry]

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. [heck, what do you need him for?]

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


Never move into his mother’s house. [yikes! no two queens in the house please!]

Waking Up Early February 18, 2008

 

This is one of the many days when I dread waking up in the morning. All my life, this has been a problem of mine. Yes, I have been a sleepyhead – a bad habit which I wished to eradicate but up to now, I am still struggling for it to get out of my system. I wish I could just turn off a switch and let it go away. I am not pleased with myself when I hustle and consequently skip breakfast so I can go to school/work on time…but then the next day, the cycle just goes on…grrrrrr I always hate myself for that.

 

I searched the web for “waking up early” (Googling about anything under the sun is my favourite pastime. I discover and learn many things from various people around the globe just by clicking. Isn’t it great?!)…and so I found and got struck by this meme: Waking Up Early. I soooo agree with him when he said:

 

“Having a purpose is a good start, but this isn’t always enough. I mean, come on, are you really going to get up early to work on some TPS report for work? What I do in addition to having a purpose is to have a reward or other attractive incentive to get up for. It can be anything. I personally look forward to having time to check my emails in the morning, eat breakfast and drink a cup of tea.”

 

Hmmmm…what an excellent idea! I’ll try to ponder the tips and start tomorrow. Wish me luck!

what has LOVE got to do with it? February 4, 2008

 

 

 

LOVE is blind – a puzzling phrase I should say. It is said to originate from Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice -“But love is blind and lovers cannot see…”

 

Can a lover not really see? Did he/she choose not to see? Or can he/she really see “beyond” what is evident?

 

Well, I have nothing against this phrase when it is used in a “positive” context. An example would be: loving someone despite of his/her disabilities, weaknesses, imperfections and the like. This is something admirable, don’t you agree?

 

Other than that, I believe the phrase can be equated to idiocy or dependency.

 

I’ve heard and witnessed many despicable stories like:

• A lover believes his/her partner when he/she denies the cheating even if he/she was caught-in-the-act;
• A wife unwaveringly accepts philandering hubby every after failed relationship with other women;
• A mother cannot give-up her daughter’s stepfather even if he shamelessly rapes her;
• A battered wife can never leave her drunkard and unemployed husband;

These miserable tales may go on and on and it may come from people close to you. Many times, you just get exasperated because you can never give enough counsel to help her/him get out of the situation. You even come to the point when you become your friend’s enemy because you’re against it all. You feel powerless because you are aware that nobody can HELP your friend but herself/himself alone. You are just there to guide but the decision is hers/his.

 

And so you ask WHY oh WHY this happens??? Even your friend don’t know why he/she can’t stop himself/herself…and ending up with the thought that LOVE defies reasons and that it is BLIND indeed.

 

Is it really??? I don’t believe so! Perhaps the fear of being alone fuels it all which consequently leads to denial and clinging. One embraces a little light of hope even if it’s a tall tale just to keep his/her partner. Love definitely has very little to do with it for Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the TRUTH (I Corinthians 13:6)…LOVE shouldn’t be hurtful nor destructive. It should bring out the best in you!