what has LOVE got to do with it? February 4, 2008

 

 

 

LOVE is blind – a puzzling phrase I should say. It is said to originate from Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice -“But love is blind and lovers cannot see…”

 

Can a lover not really see? Did he/she choose not to see? Or can he/she really see “beyond” what is evident?

 

Well, I have nothing against this phrase when it is used in a “positive” context. An example would be: loving someone despite of his/her disabilities, weaknesses, imperfections and the like. This is something admirable, don’t you agree?

 

Other than that, I believe the phrase can be equated to idiocy or dependency.

 

I’ve heard and witnessed many despicable stories like:

• A lover believes his/her partner when he/she denies the cheating even if he/she was caught-in-the-act;
• A wife unwaveringly accepts philandering hubby every after failed relationship with other women;
• A mother cannot give-up her daughter’s stepfather even if he shamelessly rapes her;
• A battered wife can never leave her drunkard and unemployed husband;

These miserable tales may go on and on and it may come from people close to you. Many times, you just get exasperated because you can never give enough counsel to help her/him get out of the situation. You even come to the point when you become your friend’s enemy because you’re against it all. You feel powerless because you are aware that nobody can HELP your friend but herself/himself alone. You are just there to guide but the decision is hers/his.

 

And so you ask WHY oh WHY this happens??? Even your friend don’t know why he/she can’t stop himself/herself…and ending up with the thought that LOVE defies reasons and that it is BLIND indeed.

 

Is it really??? I don’t believe so! Perhaps the fear of being alone fuels it all which consequently leads to denial and clinging. One embraces a little light of hope even if it’s a tall tale just to keep his/her partner. Love definitely has very little to do with it for Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the TRUTH (I Corinthians 13:6)…LOVE shouldn’t be hurtful nor destructive. It should bring out the best in you!