no line breaks here at wordpress! grrrrr May 2, 2008

I have been battling about putting spaces or line breaks between paragraphs here bUT grrrr it isn’t working. now, i don’t want to post here anymore. see my last post? how chaotic is that? hope wordpress can resolve this issue…i’m seriously wanting to create another blog huhu

hmmm i just made a solution - put “period(s)” to achieve the space a want for every paragraph…so i’m posting here again…though, i will probably go back to blogspot…will let u know then.

Dyslexia March 27, 2008

Have you tried reading an article or story that after a paragraph, you just realize that you don’t get it? And then you read it again but it seems that your mind isn’t working? When you give directions and you say right while your hand points to the left or vice versa? Ever confused “before” and “after”? Missed to see misspellings or grammatical errors after a couple of proofreading? Misread words? Sometimes, you can’t seem to multiply numbers automatically? (what’s the use of calculators anyway hehe)

I’m totally GUILTY of all of the above. If you can’t empathize with me then you must be superior/gifted. Good on you mate! But for those who know what I’m talking about, don’t worry! We’re normal!

Good news for us: we’re not really stupid. Language is just NOT a natural process like eating and sleeping. We need to LEARN to count, talk, write, read and consequently understand…and the learning doesn’t really stop when we finish elementary, highschool or college. As long as these errors don’t disturb you to function normally (like passing your course), it’s not something to be alarmed about.

If it does affect you big time, then you might have learning difficulties. Nevertheless, don’t despair; you can learn to cope up with the problem by learning some techniques/strategies…I’m writing about this because a lot of people aren’t aware of the disability yet and as an advocate, I’m kind of bound to give information about it in my own little way.

Back in PI, I happened to work as a Resource Teacher for kids with specific literacy needs especially for remedial reading/writing. No maths please, I need remediation on that too LOL. Yes, you probably have heard of the word “dyslexia”. You can even hear it from an 80’s song “Dyslexic Heart” – well, figuratively used though.

In a nutshell, dyslexia is a learning disability characterized by problems with reading, spelling, writing, speaking, or listening. The condition has nothing to do with a person’s intelligence. In fact, you should have at least an average IQ before you can be considered to have the problem. Many are even very intelligent but have serious troubles in:

• Understanding sounds in words, sound order, or rhymes
• Identifying single words
• Spelling
• Transposing (reversing) letters in words
• Handwriting
• Reading comprehension (understanding)
• Delayed spoken language
• Confusion with directions or handedness (right-versus left-handedness)
• Confusion with certain concepts, such as “up” and “down,” “early” and “late,” and so on
• Mathematics

There is indeed a discrepancy between their IQ and achievement.

To reiterate, people with dyslexia are NOT dim-witted. They just think differently and can see things in a different and unique perspective. To some extent, this may even be a gift or advantage. Some famous people with dyslexia include Leonardo da Vinci, Albert Einstein, Walt Disney, Thomas Edison, John F. Kennedy, Tom Cruise…the list can go on.

So, don’t be too judgmental about anyone who has a disability because you’ll never know; he/she may discover or contribute something extraordinary to our society; or even if he/she cannot do something phenomenal, he/she has the same rights as everybody else - especially to live in this world without discrimination.

Only the brave dare look upon the gray-

upon the things which cannot be explained easily,

upon the things which often engender mistakes,

upon the things whose cause cannot be understood,

upon the things we must accept and live with.

And therefore only the brave dare look upon difference without flinching.

~Richard H. Hungerford

Are you brave enough?????

Just for laughs haha March 21, 2008

This is a FUNNY version of James Blunt’s “You’re Beautiful”

Endlessly wishing… March 20, 2008

At 5, I wished I could let the time fly so I can go to school and own a cute bag, nice notebooks and pencils.

 

At 10, I wished I could let the time fly so I can be in high school and enjoy parties like my older sisters.

 

At 15, I wished I could let the time fly so I can be in college and live away from my parents to enter the university…then I can enjoy more independence.

 

At 18, I was elated to be entitled of more freedom and control of my life. I can do some things without needing my parent’s consent. Yet, I wished I could still let the time fly so I can finish my studies, work and earn money…then I can have total independence.

 

At 21, I finished a degree, found work and earned money. I achieved total independence indeed.

 

But as time goes by, I reckoned that independence comes with countless responsibilities – bills to pay, food to eat, career plans and so on. Life became apparently complex…then I began to miss the time when I don’t worry about anything but play.

 

Now, from time to time, I wish I could go back to be 5 again

The Superhero in me March 18, 2008

Your results:
You are Wonder Woman

Wonder Woman 77% Green Lantern 70% Superman 65% Robin 60% Supergirl 52% Batman 50% Spider-Man 45% Iron Man 45% Hulk 45% Catwoman 35% The Flash 30%

You are a beautiful princess with great strength of character.

Click here to take the Superhero Personality Test

About Men/Relationship February 18, 2008

I got this from a friend and I thought I should post it for it is a MUST READ for all women. These are all quoted from Oprah:

 If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. [yeah!]

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? [exactly!]

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. [so cut your losses and move on girl!]

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. [yup!]

You cannot change a man’s behaviour. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. [but of course!]

Never let a man define who you are.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary… not supplementary.

Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

You need time to heal between relationships… There is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. [amen!]

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. [True!]

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. [so don't grovel, girl. keep your dignity!]

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. [right on!]

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. [so true!]

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better. [why do some guys pressure you into making a permanent commitment?]

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you trulyhappy.


Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. [the nerve...]

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. [so true!]

All men are NOT dogs. [True. Thank God for the few decent guys on earth!]

You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is two way street.

Never co-sign for a man. [yeah, better be safe than sorry]

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. [heck, what do you need him for?]

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


Never move into his mother’s house. [yikes! no two queens in the house please!]

Waking Up Early February 18, 2008

 

This is one of the many days when I dread waking up in the morning. All my life, this has been a problem of mine. Yes, I have been a sleepyhead – a bad habit which I wished to eradicate but up to now, I am still struggling for it to get out of my system. I wish I could just turn off a switch and let it go away. I am not pleased with myself when I hustle and consequently skip breakfast so I can go to school/work on time…but then the next day, the cycle just goes on…grrrrrr I always hate myself for that.

 

I searched the web for “waking up early” (Googling about anything under the sun is my favourite pastime. I discover and learn many things from various people around the globe just by clicking. Isn’t it great?!)…and so I found and got struck by this meme: Waking Up Early. I soooo agree with him when he said:

 

“Having a purpose is a good start, but this isn’t always enough. I mean, come on, are you really going to get up early to work on some TPS report for work? What I do in addition to having a purpose is to have a reward or other attractive incentive to get up for. It can be anything. I personally look forward to having time to check my emails in the morning, eat breakfast and drink a cup of tea.”

 

Hmmmm…what an excellent idea! I’ll try to ponder the tips and start tomorrow. Wish me luck!

Reflection: “What do I really want?” January 4, 2008

Have you ever got a feeling that you don’t really know what you want? When you are on the verge of wanting to change career or whatever? or Just wanting something else???

Today, I came to reflect and recognize I have endless wants, desires, aims, etc. I believe this is not reflective of unhappiness of what or where I am now because I am contented – life is good in general and I am thankful for my husband, my family, my friends and everyone who touched and made my life more meaningful. However, my contentment doesn’t mean I am complacent with everything because I cannot STOP trying to BE better. If by chance and fate I’ll succeed, great! If not, I’ll try and try and try…There’s a place I wanna be, a person I wanna be and yet it is undefined and it is boundless.

In my opinion, we are all alike; we never get satisfied with everything – little things, major things and what have you. At some point, we will want something and we just don’t stop…but then again, I don’t know. I can only speak for myself =D

My drama mode today made me wrote this poem:

3rd world passport =( January 3, 2008

Our world is incredibly filled with wonders that we ought to witness and experience. Travelling and seeing new places interest me big time! It feels like heaven when hubby and I can wander around.

 

I’ve heard that many people from the 1^st world do “contracting” and spend half of their year working and the rest of it wandering. How COOL is that?!!! Gosh, that is an enormous advantage of being citizens of the 1^st world. They can go wherever they want and work there <green with envy>. They simply have a choice. While us, the ones holding 3^rd world passports need to APPLY to enter other countries and unfortunately, denial of entry is a usual scenario. Moreover, finding work abroad is not easy too because assessment of our qualifications is a MUST and further training/exams should be taken first before they can regard us with comparable skills/qualifications <sigh>. Qualms on travelling/working abroad are just even on the surface of the deep-rooted issues of our misfortunes. We simply cannot have the FREEDOM others are enjoying and that’s the bottom-line.

 

Perhaps, this is one good reason why many of us are desperately itching to have our passports changed because it is literally our “passport” to a more privileged life. How SAD is that?

WANTED: Wife or Husband December 21, 2007

Marriage - a word that encompasses countless issues. Perhaps this is a universal topic that would exude endless conversations, reactions, emotions, beliefs and what have you. Well, who I am to talk about this? Just a novice I may seem but being married for 50 years doesn’t make one an expert either - don’t you think so? Not even Oprah, the queen of talk, can use all her fame and influence on this topic because she isn’t a member of the club herself. Is she skeptical about it? Maybe.

Indeed, it is a blunt fact that broken vows increased over the years and many became cynical about it. The most common reason of break-up is the notorious 3^rd party syndrome or falling-out-of-love - whichever comes first?! I am not really sure. From that, problems spring out and the reasons to untie the knot just go on and on and on…

So the question is - why and when did the love start to dwindle? Or is love enough? Again, stories may begin to unfold and some will choose it to remain untold. Daunting matters of marriage isn’t that easy to tackle after all. Worst of it all, when the growing children are involved and they feel rejected and unloved too. Sad but true.

Marriage is a tough decision. When it fails, it will surely take a harsh toll. Therefore, before you enter, think that it’s like the toughest JOB you’ll ever apply for. See if you fit the following TOP 5 requirements:

Warning: MUST meet the aforementioned requirements or it may result to psychological and emotional disturbance/dysfunction.