Waking Up Early February 18, 2008

 

This is one of the many days when I dread waking up in the morning. All my life, this has been a problem of mine. Yes, I have been a sleepyhead – a bad habit which I wished to eradicate but up to now, I am still struggling for it to get out of my system. I wish I could just turn off a switch and let it go away. I am not pleased with myself when I hustle and consequently skip breakfast so I can go to school/work on time…but then the next day, the cycle just goes on…grrrrrr I always hate myself for that.

 

I searched the web for “waking up early” (Googling about anything under the sun is my favourite pastime. I discover and learn many things from various people around the globe just by clicking. Isn’t it great?!)…and so I found and got struck by this meme: Waking Up Early. I soooo agree with him when he said:

 

“Having a purpose is a good start, but this isn’t always enough. I mean, come on, are you really going to get up early to work on some TPS report for work? What I do in addition to having a purpose is to have a reward or other attractive incentive to get up for. It can be anything. I personally look forward to having time to check my emails in the morning, eat breakfast and drink a cup of tea.”

 

Hmmmm…what an excellent idea! I’ll try to ponder the tips and start tomorrow. Wish me luck!

what has LOVE got to do with it? February 4, 2008

 

 

 

LOVE is blind – a puzzling phrase I should say. It is said to originate from Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice -“But love is blind and lovers cannot see…”

 

Can a lover not really see? Did he/she choose not to see? Or can he/she really see “beyond” what is evident?

 

Well, I have nothing against this phrase when it is used in a “positive” context. An example would be: loving someone despite of his/her disabilities, weaknesses, imperfections and the like. This is something admirable, don’t you agree?

 

Other than that, I believe the phrase can be equated to idiocy or dependency.

 

I’ve heard and witnessed many despicable stories like:

• A lover believes his/her partner when he/she denies the cheating even if he/she was caught-in-the-act;
• A wife unwaveringly accepts philandering hubby every after failed relationship with other women;
• A mother cannot give-up her daughter’s stepfather even if he shamelessly rapes her;
• A battered wife can never leave her drunkard and unemployed husband;

These miserable tales may go on and on and it may come from people close to you. Many times, you just get exasperated because you can never give enough counsel to help her/him get out of the situation. You even come to the point when you become your friend’s enemy because you’re against it all. You feel powerless because you are aware that nobody can HELP your friend but herself/himself alone. You are just there to guide but the decision is hers/his.

 

And so you ask WHY oh WHY this happens??? Even your friend don’t know why he/she can’t stop himself/herself…and ending up with the thought that LOVE defies reasons and that it is BLIND indeed.

 

Is it really??? I don’t believe so! Perhaps the fear of being alone fuels it all which consequently leads to denial and clinging. One embraces a little light of hope even if it’s a tall tale just to keep his/her partner. Love definitely has very little to do with it for Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the TRUTH (I Corinthians 13:6)…LOVE shouldn’t be hurtful nor destructive. It should bring out the best in you!

 

 

A Love Note for my husband January 30, 2008

Dreams January 16, 2008

top 5 mundane things that make me HAPPY =D January 9, 2008

I am not that hard-to-please you know, even ordinary things that usually go unnoticed make me really HAPPY and THANKFUL =D

1. seeing a baby – it gives me joy just by looking at babies and more so when they smile. Babies are proof of life’s miracles.

2. chirping birds in the morning – it reminds me of a NEW day - another chance and opportunity to LIVE in the real sense of the word

3. a blooming flower – it is a privilege to see them fulfill their ultimate purpose

4. the twilight – the meeting of day and night is simply beautiful!

5. ticking of a clock – I like hearing its rhythm; it makes me sleep and it reminds me that I’m alive…”time is gold” they say… so seize every moment of your life =D

You see, happiness isn’t really that hard to find.

Deciphering Me January 4, 2008

I just recently discovered this song and I LOVE it! Feel free to play it, read the lyrics and “decipher” the message =D

Deciphering Me (Brooke Fraser)

Friend, it’s getting late
We should be going
We have sat here beneath these flickering neons for hours
while I am cracking their code, you are deciphering me
for i am a mystery, I am a locked room in a tall tower

[CHORUS:]
Oh can you feel the gravity falling, calling us home?
Oh, did you see the stars colliding, shining just to show we belong?
We belong.

Your telescope eyes see everything clearly
My vision is blurred but i know what I heard echoing all around
while I am tuning you in, you are deciphering me
not such a mystery, not such a faint in a far away sound

[CHORUS]

[BRIDGE:]
It’s love, it’s love that holds us
We will be alright
It’s truth, it’s truth that shows us
If we’ll walk in it’s (his) light

[x2]
Oh can you feel the gravity falling, calling us home?
Oh, did you see the stars colliding, shining just to show we belong?

Oh can you feel the gravity falling, calling us home? (we belong)
Oh, did you see the stars colliding, shining goes to show we belong?
We belong.

Reflection: “What do I really want?” January 4, 2008

Have you ever got a feeling that you don’t really know what you want? When you are on the verge of wanting to change career or whatever? or Just wanting something else???

Today, I came to reflect and recognize I have endless wants, desires, aims, etc. I believe this is not reflective of unhappiness of what or where I am now because I am contented – life is good in general and I am thankful for my husband, my family, my friends and everyone who touched and made my life more meaningful. However, my contentment doesn’t mean I am complacent with everything because I cannot STOP trying to BE better. If by chance and fate I’ll succeed, great! If not, I’ll try and try and try…There’s a place I wanna be, a person I wanna be and yet it is undefined and it is boundless.

In my opinion, we are all alike; we never get satisfied with everything – little things, major things and what have you. At some point, we will want something and we just don’t stop…but then again, I don’t know. I can only speak for myself =D

My drama mode today made me wrote this poem:

3rd world passport =( January 3, 2008

Our world is incredibly filled with wonders that we ought to witness and experience. Travelling and seeing new places interest me big time! It feels like heaven when hubby and I can wander around.

 

I’ve heard that many people from the 1^st world do “contracting” and spend half of their year working and the rest of it wandering. How COOL is that?!!! Gosh, that is an enormous advantage of being citizens of the 1^st world. They can go wherever they want and work there <green with envy>. They simply have a choice. While us, the ones holding 3^rd world passports need to APPLY to enter other countries and unfortunately, denial of entry is a usual scenario. Moreover, finding work abroad is not easy too because assessment of our qualifications is a MUST and further training/exams should be taken first before they can regard us with comparable skills/qualifications <sigh>. Qualms on travelling/working abroad are just even on the surface of the deep-rooted issues of our misfortunes. We simply cannot have the FREEDOM others are enjoying and that’s the bottom-line.

 

Perhaps, this is one good reason why many of us are desperately itching to have our passports changed because it is literally our “passport” to a more privileged life. How SAD is that?

Love Note =) December 21, 2007

This week I got this surprising early-morning note from hubby when I opened the laptop:

(notice the colors? it’s our wedding motif =D)

It soooo simple but it surely made my day! My heart melted. Simple and little surprises do keep the flames within. Keep it up D! It works wonders. Thank you for everything. I LOVE YOU TOO!

WANTED: Wife or Husband December 21, 2007

Marriage - a word that encompasses countless issues. Perhaps this is a universal topic that would exude endless conversations, reactions, emotions, beliefs and what have you. Well, who I am to talk about this? Just a novice I may seem but being married for 50 years doesn’t make one an expert either - don’t you think so? Not even Oprah, the queen of talk, can use all her fame and influence on this topic because she isn’t a member of the club herself. Is she skeptical about it? Maybe.

Indeed, it is a blunt fact that broken vows increased over the years and many became cynical about it. The most common reason of break-up is the notorious 3^rd party syndrome or falling-out-of-love - whichever comes first?! I am not really sure. From that, problems spring out and the reasons to untie the knot just go on and on and on…

So the question is - why and when did the love start to dwindle? Or is love enough? Again, stories may begin to unfold and some will choose it to remain untold. Daunting matters of marriage isn’t that easy to tackle after all. Worst of it all, when the growing children are involved and they feel rejected and unloved too. Sad but true.

Marriage is a tough decision. When it fails, it will surely take a harsh toll. Therefore, before you enter, think that it’s like the toughest JOB you’ll ever apply for. See if you fit the following TOP 5 requirements:

Warning: MUST meet the aforementioned requirements or it may result to psychological and emotional disturbance/dysfunction.